He has a knife collection but they are here and there. There is one particular knife he has lost and it could be ANYWHERE...I have looked and looked until I'm stressed to the point of being sick. He said forget about it but he won't it will be on his mind until it is found. What can I do to help him not lose things ?
TG my Mom has her own room because she keeps changing where things r. I still haven't found a top she had that looked very good on her. I'm sure I washed it and put it away. Have looked in my clothes and husbands. Same happened with friend. Her father lost his wallet and keys. Her Mom hunted high and low, oven and microwave. A friend told hervto look under the mattress. Wala! He had put them way under that even making the bed she didn't find them. He asked about them everyday and she told him they were lost and without them he couldn't drive. Eventually he stopped asking. When she found them she hid them. By that time he was content and she sold the car.
If my Dad is looking for something, it is usually buried under the piles of paper he has around. If it isn't urgent, we just wait until it reappears while cleaning.
My dad used to lose his checkbook constantly (he had dementia of some sort), then would ask one of us to take him to the bank to close that account and open a new one, which after two or three times was just ridiculous. I'm the bossy oldest kid, so I nicely said No...and we would find it in the house. I went into Amazon.com and bought him for three bucks a RED checkbook cover, and we could find the checkbook more easily, certainly more easily than a black or dark blue checkbook cover. He hid all his pistols himself, then couldn't find them, which was fine with us. But he felt vulnerable (lived alone with frequent care visits from his kids), so we would find knives and baseball bats in his bed! Poor thing. We finally "tricked" him into memory care by calling it in-house physical therapy and dietary therapy, which in a way it was. Then a lot of our worries were over and when we visited, he was always clean and dressed and liked to entertain us and the other residents. It's tough taking care of our elders, and I am glad this community is all in it together!